The White House Gets A Spanking

There’s someone new in the White House.
And, brace yourself. It’s a woman.

 The last place Washington D.C. investigative journalist Stella Martin wanted to cover was the White House. But when a friend’s request to watch over her latest submissive plaything when she’s out of town turns out to be the White House Communications Director, Stella’s unwelcomed and unbearable assignment becomes quite interesting.
 

Laird Harkness hadn’t expected his perfect Domme would show up in his office—the most famous house in the world and a place where his secret desires could end his career. Stella calms his fears, but can she sate his craving to submit, serve and belong to someone?

 Releases September 15
 
 

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About the Justice Series, a Femme Domme series 

Washington, D.C. is full of powerful women. In this series, each book will introduce one of three D.C.-based Femme Dommes—Stella, Candor and Julianna—and the submissive men who get what they need: discipline, love and a larger purpose. The White House Gets a Spanking is book #1.

Meet An Owned, Collared and Well-Educated Feminist

This interview was first posted on LadySmut.com.

A few years ago I met the very lovely, very real BDSM lifestyler, AJ Renard, at the BDSM Writers Con in New York. An owned and collared submissive, AJ is an artist, model, executive and many other things — and she loves dispelling misconceptions about kink, as well as making sure people stay safe as they enter and explore the lifestyle. Her shoe and lingerie collection is to die for. And, look! A special jewelry giveaway from AJ below.

February is known as “love month.” It’s also when a certain movie came out.What a perfect time to sit down with AJ and set the record straight on BDSM and all things kinky — especially if you’re ready to go there.

The lovely AJ Renard, who also models!

ELIZABETH SAFLEUR: AJ! It’s so great you’re here. Can you tell our readers about your BDSM/Kink lifestyle experience?
AJ RENARD: I have been in the lifestyle since my late teens, although I have always been strongly aware of my inclinations. It’s difficult to pinpoint one aspect of the lifestyle that draws me. I am a 24/7 submissive (the bottom in a Power Exchange relationship, where the submissive partner has willingly and consensually handed over some or all decision-making power in their life to their Dominant), which fulfills a deep need in me to serve and please another, and allows me the freedom to trust someone enough to put my life in their hands. I am also fundamentally a bottom (someone who receives the action during a BDSM scene vs. a Top who does the action to someone) in play and sexual encounters; it is intrinsically a part of me, and something I have never not had in my life.

ELIZABETH SAFLEUR: So you’re “all in.” I imagine that surprises people when they meet you.
AJ RENARD: I think one of the things that surprises most people is simply to learn that I am a submissive. There is a broad misconception that being a submissive makes you weak, or a doormat, when, in reality, most Dominants value submissives who have a mind of their own and use it. Being submissive does not mean that I can’t have a great career as an executive, or that I can’t voice my opinion, or that I can’t allow my sassy and rambunctious personality to shine through. It simply means that I live by a set of rules to please my Dominant, and I trust him to make decisions for my benefit and growth, as well as for the health of our relationship.

ELIZABETH SAFLEUR: Is there anything in the BDSM world that the vanilla world gets wrong, consistently?
AJ RENARD: That the lifestyle is sexually-focused. There are absolutely people, myself included, who express their sexuality through kink, but there are also many people who find satisfaction, sanctuary, healing, love, safety, and security in the lifestyle without it being sexual for them.

One of the things that bugs me the most (besides all the other things I’ve been ranting about!) is the impression many people have that BDSM is in direct conflict with feminism. There is a perception that BDSM is all about men controlling and hurting women, or women being docile and submissive (in a pejorative sense of the word). While there are many PE dynamics with a man in the D/ role and a woman in the /s role, those roles, and their activities, are consented to by both parties.

I consider myself a feminist, and I strongly encourage women to choose the path in life that makes them happy and fulfilled. For some, that might be owning a company or it might mean being a stay at home mom. It might mean being a Dominant, and taking on that D/ role yourself. It might mean handing over your power to another. Regardless, to me, being a feminist means finding what makes you feel good and having the freedom to pursue it, and not judging or condemning other women for how or where they find their own happiness. The BDSM lifestyle is where many people find their freedom, and it allows people to explore desires and parts of themselves that they may have been told they should be ashamed of.  I think that is very positive, empowering, and feminist.

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ELIZABETH SAFLEUR: My next question could fill a book, but I’m asking anyway! What do you wish people knew about BDSM, in general? There seems to be so much misinformation…
AJ RENARD: Ohhhh my gosh… There’s so much…! One of the biggest things I wish people truly understood is that everything in the lifestyle is based on consent. Consent is discussed, informed, enthusiastic, and can be withdrawn at any time by either partner.

ELIZABETH SAFLEUR: Anytime?
AJ RENARD: Yes. One of the questions I see asked a lot by newcomers (especially by young, inexperienced submissives) is “can my Dominant do X?” My first question back is almost always “did you discuss it and consent to it?” Because that’s what it boils down to. Both parties must consent to what is happening within a relationship or scene.

ELIZABETH SAFLEUR: A certain book (clears throat before saying it includes the words “Fifty” and “Shades”) opened the door to many to the world of BDSM. Yet, many real-world BDSM community members were upset about how BDSM was characterized. What would you tell someone whose only exposure was that movie or series?
AJ RENARD: If someone discovers their kinky side through a work of fiction, I think that’s great! The important thing to remember is that it’s fantasy. Real life is always different, and especially in BDSM (or any other “culture” steeped in protocols and traditions), if you don’t live the lifestyle day to day, it’s difficult to portray it accurately.

A lot of what rubbed the BDSM community the wrong way with that particular book goes back to one of the misconceptions I spoke about earlier – the idea that consent is paramount in this lifestyle. The main character was uninformed about the lifestyle in general, the dynamic she was entering into, and even the types of play they would engage in. How can you consent to something you don’t know will happen? She didn’t consent to the amount of control he took over her life, and when there isn’t consent, what is left is a violation.

I think that erotic fiction and the BDSM genre has made some conversations about sexuality and kinks slightly more acceptable (I say slightly because many of the people I know in the lifestyle would still lose their jobs, friends, and even their family if they were outed- there is still a tremendous amount of fear and bias surrounding the BDSM community), but it has also created a desire for many people to learn about and participate in kink, even when they’re not sure where to start.

ELIZABETH SAFLEUR: So how should someone start?
AJ RENARD: If someone finds their interest piqued by something they read in a BDSM novel and they want to explore more, I would encourage them to start by reading nonfiction. There are some great books and websites out there that will help you get a better idea of what the lifestyle is about, and what you might be interested in.

Editorial Note: SM 101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman and Screw the Roses, Send me the Thorns by Phillip Miller and Molly Devon are two staples of BDSM education.

For many people, fantasizing and reading is as far as they want to go, and that’s perfectly fine! For those who want to experiment, I always always always encourage them to find in-person education. Most medium cities have a local scene, and you usually don’t have to look very far away to find an event, class, party, or munch.

Munches are low-pressure social gatherings, usually in a private space at a restaurant or other non-kink venue. There is no play, or kinky activity. From the outside it looks like any other social gathering, and it’s an opportunity for kinksters to meet, socialize, and be amongst like-minded people. Many munches have an appointed person who greets and introduces newcomers to people, so you don’t feel so alone or out of place! You don’t have to be intimidated even if you’re not sure what you’ll talk about, a lot of the time most of the conversations have nothing to do with kink!

Another great way to meet people and dip your toe into the scene is through classes. Many clubs and groups (especially TNG groups- “The Next Generation” groups, for people under 35) will offer skills classes like BDSM 101, intro to impact play, etc. and those are another way to educate yourself and meet new people. Fetlife.com and FindAMunch.com can help you find a local munch, and classes in your area.

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“To play safely, you must be informed, about yourself, your partner, and the play in which you are engaging.” ~AJ Renard

ELIZABETH SAFLEUR: Since BDSM has come out of the closet, so to speak, education seems very important right now.
AJ RENARD: I always believe in the power of education! Traditions, skills, safety practices, and knowledge are all highly regarded in the BDSM community, and most of these are not learned overnight, and not instilled in someone without effort.

BDSM education, in my opinion, is incredibly important for two main reasons: Safety and Respect.

The first, and most obvious, is safety. As a bottom, you are often putting your physical and emotional safety in someone else’s hands, as a Top, you are often responsible for them. That is not something to be taken lightly, and even deceptively simple types of play (how hard can it be to tie someone’s hands with some clothesline you have lying around, right?) can often carry risk that you don’t know about. To play safely, you must be informed, about yourself, your partner, and the play in which you are engaging.

ELIZABETH SAFLEUR: So true, so true. I’ve seen some “live experimentation” on a person before and it made me cringe.
AJ RENARD: Many skills also require practice and are techniques that must be learned. If you can’t aim that flogger and hit the spot you intend to, every time, with the intensity and force you want, you need more practice before aiming it at a human being. Additionally, you need to learn how to vet your potential partners, keep yourself safe, asses their skill level, negotiate and set limits for scenes, etc. If you’re completely new to kink, those are things that you will need to learn- in classes, from experienced kinksters, from a mentor, etc.

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AJ in rope suspension.

The second biggest reason I think education is important is respect. I often compare it to moving to a foreign country. There is a new culture, language, customs, way of relating, and to respect and honor it you must understand it. I see many newcomers complain (mostly in online groups) that they don’t feel as immediately welcomed as they thought they should have been. What many people fail to realize is that to people who are deeply into the lifestyle, new people can present a potential threat.

To people in the community, newcomers can often mean someone who wants to pass by all the education, safety knowledge, and wisdom experienced players have to offer, and get right to the “exciting (i.e. dangerous) stuff.” It can mean that someone may not take the time to learn the traditions and culture of the community, and may deeply offend someone because they haven’t made the effort to understand the lifestyle, even if they don’t practice it in the same way. There is also the very real danger that someone who doesn’t understand the need for privacy and discretion, who is caught up in the excitement of getting involved in kink, may inadvertently “out” someone- as I mentioned earlier, while some aspects of kink are becoming more socially acceptable, there are serious, real world consequences if some people were to be outed.

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“With BDSM being more widely discussed, many more people are trying kink, and many people are doing it dangerously. Unfortunately, those people are the ones who often end up in the news, representing the BDSM community when something goes horribly wrong in their play.” ~AJ Renard

When you enter this community, you will come across people who live their lives in ways you might have never imagined. The kink community is an accepting place where they have found a home, and educating yourself about different lifestyles, types of play and relationships will help you navigate the waters and remain respectful.

ELIZABETH SAFLEUR: Is there anything that erotic fiction authors “get wrong” a lot…or a little?
AJ RENARD: One of my biggest peeves with a lot of BDSM fiction is that most scenes seem to be foreplay for sex. For a huge swath of kinksters, the majority of their scenes do not involve intercourse, and many scenes are not even sexual in nature. It may be a rope scene that is much more about the ties and positions and suspension. It might be fireplay for the sensation and relaxation, it might be a bootblacking scene for the appreciation of the leather and the act of service, and there are PE dynamics that are service-based, with no sexual interaction. Now, I understand the space between a rock and a hard place in which authors find themselves. Yes, they want to accurately portray the lifestyle, but their readers also want to pick up something sexy to read!

The other issue I usually have is the sped up timeline. BDSM takes time. Skills take time to learn, it takes time to build trust, it takes time to vet someone and negotiate. Again, I understand that these are vastly less exciting to read about than someone jumping in and discovering themselves through hot, kinky sex with someone who they instinctively know is safe and skilled and knowledgeable.

ELIZABETH SAFLEUR: Do you believe BDSM is “coming into its own” in the world now? Like we’ve reached a critical mass and there’s greater understanding and acceptance than in decades past? (Is this a stupid question? LOL)
AJ RENARD: Kink, as far as the more generic perception of kink (maybe some leather cuffs, a blindfold, running an ice cube over the body, spanking, maybe some butt stuff), is getting slightly more acceptable. In the same way that Kinsey’s studies found evidence that homosexual acts and behavior were too prevalent in the general population to be considered truly “abnormal,” people are starting to realize that the desire for some level of kink in the bedroom is far more common than we used to think.

However, many kinks, things like ageplay, more extreme Sadism and masochism, consensual slavery, CNC (consensual non-consent, like rape and kidnapping play), and even D/s relationships like the one I have, amongst many, many others, are still looked at with suspicion and derision. People can lose their jobs, custody of their children, and rape cases because of their lifestyle, plus facing discrimination and potential loss of friends, family, and community. Someone might understand giving your spouse a spanking, but it’s still a far leap for many of those people to understand that I truly like being hurt and terrified, to the point that I am sobbing and begging, or that a rape victim can find catharsis and comfort in CNC scenes where they might be able to feel as if they’re rewriting their attack under their own power and control.

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“It takes a lot of understanding and education for many people to understand those, or that someone can need to be in a little headspace to feel protection and love, or that sometimes it feels really, really good to just be objectified and used as a footstool.” ~AJ Renard

BDSM was only recently removed from the DSM (in the DSM V, published in 2013), and the law has not yet caught up- many activities in BDSM are considered illegal (in the United States you cannot consent to your own bodily harm). De-stigmatizing kink, and no longer classifying it as a mental illness is a start, but there is still a long and difficult road ahead before most of us might be able to live without fear of the consequences of how we express our need to serve, our sexuality, and our love.

(The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, NCSFreedom.org, has been instrumental in many of these advancements. It is a great organization to be involved with or donate to!)

ELIZABETH SAFLEUR: Thanks, AJ. You certainly have given us a lot to think about!

New Audiobook Release, an Erotic Romance With Heart

Lets Talk Audio! I’m super excited to report that Lovely, book one of the Elite Doms of Washington Series, has been made into an audio book.

Personally, I’ve been listening to more audiobooks in the last six months. Listening rather than reading gives my eyes a break and makes doing the dishes soooo much more interesting.

Here’s a chance to get Lovely for free!

Are you on audible? Would you be willing to write a review for the audio version of Lovely?  The first three people who can email me a ‘yes’ ‘to both those questions, will receive a code for a free copy of Lovely, narrated by the very talented and sexy-voiced Anastasia Whatley. (Email me here: ElizabethLoveStory@gmail.com)

The audio version of Lovely is just over 11 hours long. That’s half the length of the last Black Dagger Brotherhood book I listened to! (Love me some BDB.)

I only have 3 FREE codes left, and I suspect they’ll go fast so email me quickly – again if you’re on audible (that’s a requirement to listen). Thanks for considering giving Lovely a listen.

About Lovely

Stand alone. Not a cliff-hanger. HEA, M/F, BDSM elements, graphic language, one hot Congressman and his young female sub.

Can you have love and power at the same time?

Politician and billionaire Jonathan Brond has mastered his work, his reputation and the art of sexual domination while keeping his family’s political legacy intact. But a chance encounter with college student Christiana Snow promises something he didn’t think was possible–meeting someone honest. When the charismatic man proposes a summer of sensual, sexual submission, Christiana leaps into his world—the antidote to her bland life. But Washington, D.C. is an unforgiving place. Soon gossip and scandal threaten their relationship. Yet, in a town of players, introducing a new game is the only way out. Who knew love would be the winning plan?

Read the reviews here.

The Elite Doms of Washington series shows that not all power in D.C. is wielded by politicians.

 

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FRIDAY HOT READ: Rose C. Carole – From True Confessions to Catering to His Needs

Debut author, Rose C. Carole gives us a wonderful story in Catering to His Needs (Kitchen Confessions Book 1), involving one hot alpha male, an over 30 woman (Yay!), food, spanking, suspension and bondage. See for yourself…

Smexy Excerpt from Catering to His Needs

(Warnings: NSFW, sexual scene)

“Okay, Rebecca, turn over and let me look at you.”

She slowly turned onto her back.

“Arms above your head, feet spread wide.” As she complied, he pulled down the chains from the headboard and attached them to her cuffs, then chained her ankle cuffs to the footboard.

“Now, I’m going to prepare a snack for us. If you’re uncomfortable or need anything, just speak up. I’ll hear you on the monitor I have in the room.” He bent down and sucked a nipple into his mouth, laving it with his tongue. It beaded nicely, just the way he liked. He gave it a little nip with his teeth. She arched up to meet him, but he pressed her back into the mattress.

“Stay still. I want to play with what belongs to me.”

She settled down, but he could see the muscles in her stomach contract as he took the other nipple in his mouth. He nipped it, as well. Moans of pleasure emitted from her lush lips, a siren song of temptation to his cock. But it was the squirm he loved best, her inability to keep still while he took his own pleasure, feasting on her lush body. Making his way down to her clit, he clasped it in his mouth and sucked hard. Then before she could respond further, he rose up and left. Her whimper only made him smile.

“Be good. I’ll be back shortly,” he called as he went to the kitchen.

“What else can I do trussed up like this, even though I’m on fire?” she muttered.

Before she could say another word, he was back at her side.

“Watch your temper,” he admonished, “or you’ll have to wait a lot longer before you get any satisfaction. You certainly haven’t done anything yet to deserve it.”

“Sorry, Sir,” she whispered.

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Story Blurb

Being a single mother running a catering business isn’t easy. Finding time for love is nearly impossible. Adding in a man with his own family issues could be a recipe for disaster.

Ethan is at his wit’s end. Gina, his brother’s ex-wife, has threatened to reveal that Ethan is a member of the Playground, an exclusive BDSM club, unless she gets more alimony from the family trust fund. The scandal that would arise from such a revelation must be avoided at all costs—not only for the sake of Ethan’s reputation, but for the future of his relationship with his treasured sub, Rebecca.

Rebecca is a single mother working hard to expand her catering business. The only peace she finds from her building stress is in the handcuffs of her strong Dom, Ethan. But Rebecca’s life is not her own. Her teenage son is not handling Rebecca’s divorce well, and Rebecca feels the responsibility for her son’s happiness like a weight on her shoulders. Between her business and her son, she has little time for herself—or the growing emotional demands from her Dom.

Ethan is determined to take their relationship to the next level, and Rebecca is equally determined not to upset her son further by revealing that she has a new man in her life. Fortunately, Ethan is a Dom with a passionate interest in seeing that his sub is happy—even if he has to whip some sense into her. He’s making progress until suddenly his own problems take a turn for the worse. His brother Zach has gone missing under suspicious circumstances, and now it’s all Ethan can do just to keep himself out of jail. The cat, as they say, is out of the bag.

As their lives spiral out of control, will Ethan and Rebecca be able to find a way back into each other’s arms?

Interview with the Author

ELIZABETH SAFLEUR: Welcome Rose! Congratulations on your first release. What first drew you to the BDSM erotic or romance genre? 

ROSE C. CAROLE: I’ve read erotic romance for years and always enjoyed it. My first job out of college was working as an editorial assistant for True Confessions and Real Love magazines.

ELIZABETH SAFLEUR: How fascinating!

ROSE C. CAROLE: It wasn’t long before I was writing the stories myself. My publishing career then took a different turn and I became a book editor and then an editor for entertainment magazines. But my roots in romance stayed with me. After my son went off to college I started writing again, and I decided to once again explore romance. I attended the first BDSM Writers Workshop and had a wonderful time and met some inspiring authors who helped me on my writing journey.The BDSM dynamic is one I find intruiguing. The emotional connection has to be intense or it doesn’t work. The Dom has to be able to get into the mind of the submissive or he will not be able to maintain control. Bringing my characters into the D/s lifestyle was a way for me to enable them to unite all the elements that are needed for good sex—body, mind and spirit

ELIZABETH SAFLEUR: How would you say your take on your genre is different from other authors?

ROSE C. CAROLE: As much as I love novels about billionaire Doms who pluck ordinary women out of their lives and bring them into their world, I wanted to write a series about women who were more like me — women whose lives require them to be strong and creative so they can give attention to all the demands on them; work, family, friends and love. My struggle has been to keep my life interesting and fulfilling while meeting the needs of those who depend on me at home and at work. I think it’s a challenge other women will relate to and I hope they will empathize with the characters I have created in this series.

ELIZABETH SAFLEUR: What made you decide to sit down and actually start Catering to His Needs? How did the idea come about? 

ROSE C. CAROLE: The Kitchen Confessions series was inspired by my own experience working in a small catering operation. Working so closely with other women in a high-pressure environment forges tight friendships. You learn to rely on each other and trust they will have your back. Hours of cooking next to one another also lends itself to conversations about your personal life. It is as much like a group therapy session as it is a work environment. Problems are solved, questions are answered and mistakes are prevented. But not always. And when disasters — with family, friends or lovers — do happen, the kitchen is where you go to be soothed, comforted and restored. Rebecca’s story is the first, since she’s the owner and creator of Catered Affairs, the company around which a lot of the action happens.

ELIZABETH SAFLEUR: Tell us a little bit about Ethan. What is his goal, motivation and/or stops him from having the life they want as the story opens? 

ROSE C. CAROLE:Besides being deliciously tall, dark and handsome, Ethan is the guy who always takes care of everyone else—but not himself. He likes the BDSM lifestyle because he feels he can have a measure of control over what happens. As a Dom, he is strong as well as creative in helping a sub explore her own desires. Ethan wants to help Rebecca take charge of her own life and open herself up to him more fully. But it’s almost an impossible task, since Rebecca is being pulled in as many directions as Ethan is. It seems that love and desire may not be enough to create a lasting relationship. 

ELIZABETH SAFLEUR: Tell us a little bit about Rebecca. 

ROSE C. CAROLE:Rebecca is a woman overwhelmed by life when the book opens. She loves spending time with Ethan. He brings out all the passion she never really had in her first marriage. But she is being pulled by a teen son who is resentful of the fact that his parents have divorced and holds her responsible. She has a demanding business she needs to run to replace the income she lost as a result of the divorce. Despite the burgeoning feelings she has for Ethan, she doesn’t quite have the time or energy to seriously pursue the relationship. But she can’t quite let it go either. Ethan is too good to resist. 

ELIZABETH SAFLEUR: What is next for you, writing-wise? Any new books you’re working on you can to share?

ROSE C. CAROLE: I am working on the next book in the Kitchen Confessions series. It is about Mya, a young woman raised in the foster care system, who was inspired by Rebecca’s visit to her high school to go into a culinary program. Now she’s a chef in Rebecca’s kitchen, but she still struggles with self-esteem issues. Jake is intrigued by Mya but is reluctant to get involved with her because he has lost love before and doesn’t want to risk experiencing that pain again. Can these two damaged souls conquer their fears and find a way to heal each other?

ELIZABETH SAFLEUR: We can’t wait!

Quick Takes

Favorite word: Delicious

Favorite season: Fall

Mountains or beach? Definitely beach

Dogs or cats? Dogs

Blonds or brunettes? Brunettes

Small town or city? Big city. I don’t think I’ll ever leave New York.

Favorite place to vacation? Italy

Sweet or savory? Both

5 Books you’d take to a desert island:  I love sagas, the bigger the better so it would have to be War and Peace, Gone With the Wind, Our Mutual Friend, Wuthering Heights, and Les Miserables. But please don’t make me leave all the other wonderful romances behind, including yours, which I enjoy so much. I’m a voracious reader and I can never have enough. 

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