5 Ways Millionaires & Billionaires Aren’t Like Us

This piece first appeared on LadySmut.com

bizmeetingAccording to the latest Fifty Shades Darker movie, Christian Grey makes $24,000 every 15 minutes. Possible? Yes. Over the years I’ve met a few billionaires and lots of mega millionaires in my day job. Not sure what they make in fifteen minutes, but I can tell you these super-magnets for wealth exist.

Christian Grey is young, hot, and tormented.  He’s not like you and me with his anti-relationship contracts, and crazed need for control.

Okay, this is really just an excuse to post more pics of Jamie Dornan.

Okay, this is really just an excuse to post more pics of Jamie Dornan.

While your average mega-rich guy may not be like that, neither is he like us ordinary folk. Here are five things I’ve observed about the super rich.

  1. NEVER ENOUGH.  You worry about money.  I worry about money.  The uber-wealthy worry about money too, but not like you and me. As long as I’m paying the bills, taking a nice trip or two a year and someone comes to clean my house once a week– I’m golden. That’s enough. Millionaires and Billionaires worry about losing their super-wealthy status, and they worry about it all the time. They’ll always have money, but it’s having “enough” that’s troublesome.  Their version of “enough” is in the seven figures–for a while. Then they need more…and more…
  2. CHEAP IS CHEAP. The super-rich have odd ideas about what’s expensive. Watch them recoil in horror that a Frappacino at Starbucks costs six dollars.  However they’ll approve that 60 grand for the new pool in the third house with the swipe of a pen. (Or a phone call. They have people who handle that stuff for them.)
  3. RICH MEN DON’T ANSWER THE PHONE. It’s usually someone calling for money. Their voice mail is perpetually full. Their people will get back to you.  Maybe.
  4. RICH MEN DON’T RUSH. They walk. Other people can run–and should run, because rich men despise tardiness in others. So don’t be late for meetings with them.
  5. RICH MEN SAY NO. If a situation doesn’t suit them (like they don’t like the restaurant you pick or that company they thought they might buy), they walk away–even if they leave you hanging. Is that rude? Well, yeah.  Sometimes. Do people around them point that out? Well, no.
Thinking important business thoughts. This is what the super-rich do.

Thinking important business thoughts. This is what the super-rich do.

Ultimately, there are two kinds of super-wealthy men: those that buy their way into everything and those that buy their way out.  Is this nature or nurture? Are they rich because they have these traits, or does being rich change them? One thing’s for sure–you and I will probably never know. ; >

A Century of Hot Men: My How We’ve Changed

This blog post was first published on www.LadySmut.com. Check out this fabu group blog when you have a chance! Onward to the post…

Call this blog post “the post that almost wasn’t.” I started to write about alpha males through the ages. I sought to answer one question: Have our ideas about what makes a man an “alpha” changed over time? Know what I discovered? It didn’t. An alpha is an alpha is an alpha. Any man with a confident and commanding personality who enjoys control and generally stomps through life leading others can be considered an alpha. And, alphas never go out of style. I mean look . . .

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Yes, I spent a ridiculous amount of time creating this collage.

You know what did change over the decades? Our idea of male beauty. Let’s explore attractive males through the ages, shall we? Warning: The rabbit hole on this topic is deep, my friends. Hang on. And, fill that comment box below with all your thoughts on the trip down. We welcome pictures of who you consider a good-looking guy today or in the past.

Let’s start with 1910 and go from there. Here are four leading men, and the epitome of all things manly, from 1910 to at least the mid 1940s.

1910 to 1940

Notice anything? Besides the swashbuckling, coming-to-the rescue, genteel type of savior they portrayed? How about how pretty they look. All that slicked back hair, clean shaven chins and dapper duds.  In researching these decades and all its manly gorgeousness, a shocking lack of diversity emerged.  Not that men of different races and cultures weren’t to die for. But I just couldn’t find that many images of displayed male hotness that weren’t white men. Well, Harry Belafonte showed up. Wow, was he beautiful or what? But even this image was taken just into the 1950s.

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Harry Belafonte

Researching the 1950s revealed our image of “best looking” guys made a sudden turn. Yes, we had our collegiate frat boy and our slick office guy

s idolized in the popular TV show, Mad Men.

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More slick hair!

But a tougher “look” became idolized. Still baby-faced in some ways, but more of a fighter’s energy seemed to be behind those lashes.

James Dean

Look at these teenagers trying to mimic James and Marlon. You can always tell what’s “in” regarding looks by checking out your local high school. Seriously. Try it sometime.

1950s teens

1950s teenagers

The 1960s brought us a whole new level of grit. Steve McQueen, Clint Eastwood and James Bond ushered us into one of the greatest decades for cinema — the 1970s — and changed what (who?) we grew hot over.

Clint Eastwood

Of course the 60s and 70s also brought us hair. Lots and lots of hair. Good-bye brylcreme.

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By the time 1975 rolled around, a certain slickness returned, and ushered in a whole new glamour for men that the previous two decades had ditched.

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The concept of “sexy ugly” emerged sometime between the 1970s and 1980s. (I think.)

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Maybe it’s the hair or the large mouth? I dunno. Or perhaps the confidence and talent that makes these guys so attractive?

The 1980’s “look” took us up a notch on the “slick side.” Everything suddenly got tailored from the hair to the clothes.

Michael Douglas as Gordon Gekko in the movie, Wall Street

Don Johnson and
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Miami Vice

Don Johnson and Philip Michael Thomas played Sonny Crockett and Ricardo Tubbs in Miami Vice

Well, except for when it didn’t. The hair bands of the 80s were well labeled. They wore more make-up than I did back then.

The rock band Poison

The rock band Poison

Hang on you’re only half way down the rabbit hole. The 1990s brought us grunge, boy band cuteness and, well, just general experimentation in hair styles and gender-bending.Rock band Nirvana

Rock band Nirvana

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Boy band Nsync

I credit Will Smith for introducing color to men's wardrobes

Will Smith, the cutie pie

The late Prince

The late rocker Prince. RIP

By the time the 2000s rolled around all bets were off on an “in” look: long hair, beards, tattoos, three piece suits, jeans and t-shirts, military uniforms, exotic and cultured, all-American, tough guy etc. all made the list as attractive. We finally began to see more diversity. (i.e. someone other than white was considered hot. I mean, personally, my clothes would fall off if Denzel Washington walked into the room.) Also, right around David Beckham’s introduction to the world, muscles became a “must” to be considered good looking. Not a bad way to raise the bar . . .

David Beckham, the quintessential metrosexual

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George Clooney whose looks Sex and the City's Carrie Bradshaw declared "as classic as a Chanel suit."

George Clooney whose looks Sex and the City’s Carrie Bradshaw declared “as classic as a Chanel suit.”

But, oh wow, did we reach a new level of maleness recently. Beards and ink became the “in” thing a few years ago.

Levi Stocke

Levi Stocke

Speaking of manly goodness, we couldn’t possibly leave out Michael Stokes’ brilliant portrayals of our wounded warriors. Well, just about anyone he photographs is swoon-worthy. See what I mean about muscles? (Did you know next week is military theme week here at LadySmut? Check in daily! You never know what we will have up our sleeves . . . or down in other places.)

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I could continue with the pictures but at this point I’m sure you’re hanging on to the sides of the rabbit hole walls by your fingernails.

I can’t help but wonder, however. What will 2020 bring us in the way of male hotness? Anyone want to hazard a guess? In the meantime, cheers to all the men down the ages. You’re gorgeous, dahling. Let’s just not return to the make-up, K?

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Leonardo DiCaprio as the Great Gatsby

Until then, check out this story by Alexa Day (along with 21 other New York Times, USA Today and international bestselling authors), which is part of a brand spanking new erotic romance and BDSM box set Hero to Obey: Twenty-two Naughty Military Romance Stories. 

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About Alexa’s story, Passing Through: The summer’s brought two surprises to bar owner Gigi Deane: the former Army Ranger she hired is the perfect barback, and he takes orders in bed as well as he does on the job. Noah Malone’s told her that he’s just passing through, but as the seasons change, can she convince him to make their summer thing a little more permanent?

Yeah, baby. Follow me on Facebook for my daily hunk-a-luscious-ness pictures. More hot men to be had!

New HOT STUFF Fun!

Hellooooo Summer. Wherever you are, I hope you’re staying cooler than I am in Virginia. Spring has left the building, and the hot steaminess of summer has moved in. Speaking of heat…

Have you visited my new section called Hot Stuff yet? You’ll find the stylish, best-of, cool and favorite things of the Elite Doms of Washington. For instance, you’ll find The Best of Washington, D.C. from restaurants and clubs to the best spots for seduction. 

There’s also a special page on Club Accendos, Don’t know what that is? Read UNTOUCHABLE and find out! <Insert big grin>

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Also check out the Divine Finds section, where you’ll find my favorite services for the discriminating, busy woman (or man). The resources here might inspire you to do something good for yourself. You deserve the good life. (I got your back.)

Read my latest author interview at LadySmut? Click here to hear how international best-selling erotic romance writers, Sierra Cartwright, got to kiss William Shatner. Yes, I’m jealous.

Lastly, check out Lady Smut’s Saturday regular feature, Sexy Saturday Round-ups, too. We feature all the smutty, fun things happening across the Internet. Well, the sophisticated ones. Not the porny, icky things. We know the difference, right?

That’s it for now, my lovelies. Chat soon!

Sex Position Gumby. I Kid You Not.

Greetings my friends. Lots of news to share with you today. Let’s start with the fun . . .

WILD WICKED WEEKEND!

I am (almost) recovered from my virgin attendance at Wild Wicked Weekend — a three-day party that might be legal here, but surely is illegal somewhere in the world. Yet another reason to rejoice if you’re reading this from a safe part of the free world where fun, erotic romance and smexy talk among consenting adults is celebrated. Anyway, back to WWW. Words cannot accurately capture all the fun to be had at this author/reader/blogger/reviewer/whoever-you-are event in San Antonio, Texas every February (right about the time I want to keel myself from winter doldrums).

Check out all the shenanigans here at my recap on LadySmut (you know I blog there, right?), which include lots of pictures. Here’s one to whet your appetite.

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Yes, that is me playing one of the many games from WWW: Sexy Position Gumby.  No, that is not my bra. If it was, I’d tell you. In fact, I might shout such a declaration. I wasn’t, ahem, that blessed in that particular department. What you see is the “prop bra.”

(Haven’t visited LadySmut? Come on over and check out this group blog, especially Sexy Saturday Round-up: all the smexy, fun news from the Internet that week.)

LAP DANCING! No real segue required. Did you read my guest post on Kate Allure’s blogpost on how lap dancing can be a feminist act? For realzies. Check out Kate’s giveaway that ends April 5, 2016, too. I’m giving away two copies of UNTOUCHABLE, book 2 of the Elite Doms of Washington. No need to have read Book One (LOVELY) in advance – unless you want to. All my books are stand-alone stories with no cliff-hangers. ENTER THE GIVEAWAY HERE.

YET ANOTHER GIVEAWAY! You’ll have to hurry to make this one. I’m supporting a Kindle Book Review giveaway where you can win Kindles, Fire Tablets & gift cards at The LUCKY READER Giveaway.  Ends March 17 – St. Patrick’s Day. ENTER THE GIVEAWAY HERE. 

A BIG THANK YOU TO MY REVIEWERS! A quick but huge thank you to all the readers who’ve left me reviews & yummy stars on Amazon, Goodreads and other peer-recommended sites. I smooch you all over. LOVELY (the first Elite Doms book) had a sudden surge in reviews over the last few months, especially on Goodreads. LOVELY’s Dom Jonathan Brond personally thanks you.

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Are You Going To See Fifty Shades of Grey?

Would you tell me if you were? Many things in our world are divisive. Who knew a book, and now a movie, would put people in one of two camps: Lovers or Haters of this best-selling book?

As for me? I’ll go see it. I’m grateful E.L. James made BDSM something one could talk about in the most unlikely places. Like the [major corporation I cannot name]. 

Picture this: Six women and two men sitting in a board room when Fifty Shades of Grey comes up. The female senior vice president (overseeing at least 300 people in her workday) said she’d just finished reading it. I was stunned when the other people in the room started talking about Christian Grey. Like they’d read the book(s)! In front of their co-workers! And did I mention it was a MAJOR CORPORATION? (When I officially retire from PR, I’ll tell you the name. You’ll recognize it, and I can be safe I won’t get sued for outing one of their Sr. VPs. Ha!)

My first foray into erotic fiction was A. N. Roquelaure’s (Anne Rice) Sleeping Beauty Series two decades ago.  When I read this series in the early 1990’s no one sitting in a board room would dare talk about what went on between those pages. Thank God, the world is different today.

Now that Fifty Shades has made erotic romance (and BDSM) more, shall we say, open to discussion, we should take advantage of this new openness (our own Glasnost?). I’m not going to swoon over or diss the book. Enough people have done both. Instead, I’m encouraging you to come to New York City in August to attend the BDSM Writers Conference where you can meet your favorite erotica and erotic romance writers and meet real-life BDSM lifestyle enthusiasts. 

In the meantime, Happy Valentine’s Day, everyone. Be safe, sane and consensual.

Happy New Year’s Eve! Music, Book Trailers, Bonus Writings, Oh, My!

May the new year bring you everything you wish. In case you’re wishing for more hot and juicy moments, may I suggest some erotic romance reading? Choose a book from one of your favorite authors, or take a chance on a relatively new author (me!). Today is the last day to pre-order Lovely, a contemporary erotic romance, at nearly 50% off.

When nineteen year old Christiana Snow is lured into a summer of sexual submission with charismatic Congressman Jonathan Brond, the relationship promises the adventure she’s been craving and the life he’s been missing. But in unforgiving Washington, D.C. the threat of scandal and gossip always looms.

In case you’re wondering if Lovely is for you, below are some bonus writings, two book trailers and a link to the Lovely playlist. They will help showcase who you might meet between Lovely’s pages.

Like Jonathan Brond . . . Read his two-part interview with a very nosy reporter here and and here. (Bonus writing not in Lovely.)

 
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And Christiana Snow . . . Read a bonus scene here (not in Lovely).
 
 
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For your listening pleasure:The Lovely Playlist. (The giveaway noted is closed, but stop by my Pinterest board for weekly giveaways!)
 
Ready for the book trailer? We have two! Enjoy!
 
Lovely: Elite Doms of Washington (Book 1)